Hi guys. Beth here…and Sarah’s presence since she’s at work and doesn’t have as much email access as I do…I’m going to preface this by saying that I’m not good at confrontation and please don’t hate me after everything has been said and done but I’m about to hop onto a mod soapbox and put on my bitch cap.
We need to cut down on the off topic posts because it’s becoming a very serious issue. There are a number of members who don’t appreciate all the non-HP talk about things like Disney, music, babies, movies, Lord of the Rings, (and that’s just a sampling of the past couple weeks). Each and every one of us is guilty of talking about this stuff in excess (including me and all the other mods) and in the past, this has been OK, but Sarah and the rest of the moderators have been discussing this and we’ve all come to the conclusion that this absolutely cannot continue.
Now, we also realize that one of the main reasons that so many of us actually are close friends online and in real life, who are able to share the joys, fears and woes of our lives, is because we’ve gotten to know each other on more personal levels than just Harry Potter. We want to encourage this sort of growth because speaking from personal experience, some of the friendships I’ve made through ISPOL are among some of the most rewarding I have in my life and I never want that to change.
As an example of excess off topic, the volume of baby talk has been making me feel increasingly more uncomfortable. I’m thrilled to pieces that we will be having ISPOL babies in the next year and I’ve been cruising yarn stores for quality baby yarn that’s washable and have loads of possible projects lined up for both babies. And we don’t want to completely stamp that out because it’s an amazingly life-changing event that I feel honored to share with everyone in whichever small ways that are afforded me.
But it is starting to reach a point that really makes me hurt. Until yesterday, I had never mentioned anything on the list about my Little One and there were many people who were unaware that I’ve lost a child. And until now, Sarah’s never come out and talked about her loss either. If they were still alive, mine would be turning one this May and Sarah’s child would be five. The pain that goes along with something like this is numbing and it’s something that we’ve both discussed at great lengths in personal emails, chats and in the fancy-pants swimming pool at the Swan Resort in Orlando.
What I’m getting at, is that these sorts of off-topic posts are more appropriate for personal emails or for www.livejournal.com, which is becoming increasingly more important as a creative outlet for people to write about their opinions and the things going on in their lives that aren’t Harry Potter related. You can sign into your livejournal and bitch about your job, your parents, your hangover, your church, George Bush, neopets, your neighbor’s dog, whatever and there’s less risk of rubbing someone the wrong way because it’s your journal and you can write about whatever the heck you want.
With a list as large as this and with so many people from different cultural and socioeconomic backgrounds, it’s become more imperative than ever before to really think about other people’s situations, hobbies and personalities before hitting the send button because not all of us are huge Disney fans. And not all of us love the same music. And not all of us are fans of the Lord of the Rings. But we all love Harry Potter! So let’s keep talking about who our favorite characters are…and let’s talk about what a huge bitch Umbridge is. And let’s keep on with all the discussions about Sirius, and fanfic, and Harry Potter dreams or things you come across in your daily life that remind you of Harry Potter because…well, this is a Harry Potter list and that’s why we’re here.
And now I’m suddenly feeling a bit like Rene Zellweger giving her Bridget Jones-like public talks that all end so lamely. I suppose I’ll be okay so long as I don’t blurt out tits pervert at the end. Hehe.
Beth (and Sarah cuz she helped with some parts)
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